The other day I read an article about a piece published in the Observer, a British paper. They’d taken a couple of size 16 women, models, and done a photo shoot. The idea being that size 16 is the average size of British women. They were shocked by the results feeling that the women were too overtly feminine. “Almost fetishistic” was the phrase they used, suggesting the only people that could find these women attractive are in some way perverted.
I was gob-smacked when I read that. Not because someone thinks fat women are unattractive, hello, where’s the surprise in that; but because I believed it! My whole life I’ve lived by a premise that covering up is my god given duty because I’m fat. I always thought that was to hide my shame but I see now it’s so that other people don’t feel embarrassed. And not embarrassed on my behalf; it actually makes more sense that they feel confronted by my ‘overtly feminine’ curves. As if it’s a crime to be curvy.
The worse thing is that I want to change. All my life I’ve believed all those messages telling me to change, to be thinner, that I’m not good enough the way I am. And yet secretly I love my curves. I think they’re totally kick ass. It’s no wonder I spend so much time confused about my body.
So I’ve decided to declare myself as a ‘pervert’ because I think these woman look incredibly sexy and beautiful. Of course this means that I’m going to have to let go of some of my own preconceptions about myself and that actually sounds like a really good idea.
So, are you a pervert?
LISA
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October 3rd, 2008 at 6:22 pm
Ha. I don’t know if I’m a perv but I wanted to applaud you for loving yourself just the way you are.
There’s nothing more sexy than self-confidence.
October 3rd, 2008 at 11:38 pm
Thank you Vered. I agree self-confidence is sexy and it actually feels really good too. Go figure.
October 1st, 2009 at 6:48 pm
““Almost fetishistic” was the phrase they used, suggesting the only people that could find these women attractive are in some way perverted.”
I suppose I am pervert. I love women au’naturelle – as they are, warts and all. I have been married to the same woman for 10 years (lived together for 15), and not one day goes by without me hearing or sensing that she feels bad about herself because she’s not a size 2, that she has hairy calves and no butt to write home about. She’s a healthy size 18 and I love every cubic inch to bits, she’s beautiful, witty, intelligent, loving and caring and so insanely womanly that she sends my head spinning many times a day!
A traditional model-sized woman walking down the street, however beautiful she might be won’t make me look twice or even notice her. A woman a healthy size 12+ will make me take note and if she’s got poise, make me look twice appreciatively.
So yeah, I am pervert. And honestly, I truly believe that most mature men are. We don’t want waifs, we want women – full-sized hot women.
Henric
October 1st, 2009 at 7:28 pm
It’s wonderful to hear from men than curvy is ok, good even.
I really appreciate it.
Thanks Henric
February 16th, 2010 at 6:35 pm
I’m NORMAL and I think these women women are gorgeous! What’s the world coming to? Let me add that I was watching a beauty pageant (i was bored) and it’s changed so much now. The women are all ridiculously skinny, and they basically just looked like clones. It was honestly hard to find them attractive.